We're Going to be Friends

"Do you wanna uh...grab a coffee or something?"

Actively trying to make new friends is not something people usually have to do until they are thrown into a new environment or into new life circumstances.  I can't remember trying to actively make friends since my early-mid college years.  Now here I am, in a new environment trying to to find my Joey, Rachel, and Gunther.

I wouldn't say it has been particularly too hard to meet new people here.  Maybe it's because Singapore is made up of so many expats that people understand what it's like to be alone in a new city.  Or maybe it's because I’m so cool, fun, and funny that everyone just naturally wants to hang out with me.  Yeah, you're right, it's just me.

Getting durian sago dessert with the Lil Sib!

What I find particularly hilarious is how sometimes trying to make friends is almost like dating.  You inevitably end up going out to grab drinks with these people...or dinners...or coffee "hangouts." Like dating, you ask the same questions just to different faces:

"What do you do?"
"Where are you from?"
"What’s your favorite sexual position? I’m guessing reverse-cowgirl."

And of course, you have the whole internal process of assessing if there is a personality match - is this person really friend material?  Do they laugh at your terrible and often unnecessarily dirty jokes (“Dildos?  More like Dildo-n’ts!” [I literally just thought that up as I was typing...I’m too funny!])  Are they themselves funny?  It’s a constant flow of making snap judgements - my favorite hobby.

And like dating again, you are also secretly insecure and constantly try your best to show off how cool you are. How funny you are.  How smart you are.  How much of a DAB* you are (“No, I’m not drunk. Yes, I will take that 8th shot with you! Woooo, I’m such a Bro!!!”)

Or maybe, I’m just overthinking the whole thing.  If a person is cool, just hang out with them.  There, I just solved making friends/dating.  You’re welcome.

*Down Ass Bitch.

Song of the Week: This song is just great.  The video is awesome (just keep watching).  And the lyrics have all the Feels!

Bonus Song (because it fits this week's blog post theme)